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What the court considers when making a parenting order

Find out what the court considers when deciding proposed arrangements for parenting orders, including the children’s best interests and safety.

When making a parenting order, the court's main consideration is whether the proposed arrangements are what is best for the children and to ensure their safety.

Ideally, parents would have joint parental responsibility to decide on major long-term issues affecting the children, but the court will look at what is best for the children in each case.

If a parent (or a person who lives with a parent) has been abusive or violent towards the children, it is unlikely the parental responsibility would be shared.

Deciding children's best interests

In deciding what parenting arrangement is in the children’s best interests, the court considers:

  • what arrangements would promote the safety of the children and each person who has care of the children
  • any views expressed by the children including what the children think. Children do not have to express their views if they don’t want to
  • the children’s developmental, psychological, emotional and cultural needs – for example, how much they understand and how mature they are
  • the capacity of each parent to provide for the children’s developmental, psychological, emotional and cultural needs
  • the kind of relationship children have with their parents and other significant people, including grandparents, brothers and sisters, and other relatives, and the benefits of these relationships to the children
  • the right of children who are Aboriginal or Torres Strait Islander to enjoy and develop a positive appreciation for their culture and connection with members of their family, community, country, and language.

The court may also consider other issues they think are relevant to each child.

This can include:

  • the extent to which each parent has been involved (or not) with decisions about major long-term issues about the children
  • how much time each parent has (or has not) spent with and communicated with the children.
  • whether each parent has supported the children financially or failed to do so – for example paying child support on time
  • the likely effect of any change to where children have been living or staying. This includes separating them from either parent, grandparents, siblings, any other relatives or other people important to their welfare
  • the practical difficulty and expense of children seeing each parent, and whether that will affect their right to have a relationship with each parent. This includes spending time with and/or communicating with each other
  • the maturity, background (including culture and traditions), gender and lifestyle of the children and of each parent, and anything else about the children that the court thinks is important
  • each parent’s attitude to the responsibilities of being a parent and towards their children in general
  • any family violence involving the children or a member of their family including historical family violence
  • any contested or final family violence order that includes the children or a member of the children’s family
  • whether the orders that the parties have applied for will lessen the risk of further court proceedings.

The court can also look at the:

  • history of the relationship and the care of the children
  • events that have happened since the parent's separation
  • circumstances that have existed since the parent's separation.

Parental responsibility

Parents have duties and responsibilities in relation to their children. Joint parental responsibility means both parents make joint decisions about major long-term issues about the children. It is not the same as equal parenting time or shared care.

Joint parental responsibility includes making joint decisions about children’s:

  • medical matters
  • religious matters
  • cultural matters
  • education
  • living arrangements.

Day-to-day decisions, such as what the children eat or wear, are not included.

If the court finds both parents have joint parental responsibility, then the parents must consult each other about the major long-term decision and make a genuine joint decision.

A court can make order for joint or sole parental responsibility depending on what is in the children’s best interests.

Practical considerations

When deciding whether an arrangement is practical and is in the children's best interest, the court will look at:

  • how the proposed time will affect the children
  • how far apart the parents live
  • each parent’s ability to:
    • share care and communicate with one another
    • resolve difficulties in relation to the proposed arrangements
    • make sure that the arrangement works in the best interests of the children, on an ongoing basis
  • any other consideration the court thinks relevant.

Allegations of family violence or child abuse

If there are allegations of family violence or child abuse, this will affect how family law court cases are managed.

The court can make arrangements to protect the safety of children and family members.

In situations where there is family violence or child abuse, a family dispute resolution practitioner may decide that you do not need to go to family dispute resolution before applying for a parenting order.

This includes where the other person's threats make it difficult for you to participate equally in the dispute resolution process.

You can also make an application directly to the court without getting a certificate from a family dispute resolution practitioner. However, the court must be satisfied that there is family violence or child abuse, or a risk of one or both of these.

What the court can do

When applying for parenting orders, it is important that you tell the court if:

Both are relevant to how your case is managed by the court.

If the court finds that there are issues of family violence or child abuse, it may not immediately make a parenting order.

If Services Australia is involved or becomes involved in a child protection case, any family law proceedings will not continue. The court may order Services Australia to provide any relevant information. The court will try to make an temporary order that protects the children.

In situations where each parent says different things and the court cannot determine who is telling the truth, the court may order that one parent's time with the children is supervised.

The court may also order the appointment of an independent children’s lawyer, who can investigate further and make a report. National Legal Aid's website has more information about the role of independent children's lawyersExternal Link for children and parents.

The court will make sure anyone experiencing family violence can get information about the available services and options from a family counsellor or family dispute resolution practitioner. If there is an urgent risk of family violence or child abuse, the court may make a parenting order and direct that the affected family member receive information later on.

If there has been family violence or child abuse, or there is risk of either, get legal advice. If you are considering family dispute resolution, let the family dispute resolution service know immediately.

Other things to consider for parenting orders

The law does not require a parent to see their child. However, parents must not stop or interfere with the other parent's rights or responsibilities under the parenting order.

The court only considers making orders that the children do not see one parent in special circumstances, such as where the court considers the child to be at serious risk of harm. This is rare.

If the court considers that children may be at risk in the care of one parent, it can order that they spend time or communicate with that parent under certain conditions or under supervision by another person who has been agreed to by the court. This can be another relative or someone at a contact service. A contact service is a place where children can be dropped off and picked up or spend supervised time with a parent.

There is no defined age when children can decide on their own living or communicating arrangements. The law takes into account the emotional and intellectual maturity of children as well as their age when considering what they want.

Considering children’s views

When making parenting orders, the court does not usually hear directly from children, although it can. Children do not usually go into court.

Children’s attitudes and views may be made known to the court in a family report, child impact report or through an independent children’s lawyer.

Independent children’s lawyers

An independent children’s lawyer helps the court decide what arrangements are in the children’s best interests. The independent children’s lawyer does not represent any person in the case.

An independent children’s lawyer may:

  • get information from teachers, doctors or counsellors
  • issue subpoenas to find out other information such as criminal records
  • ask for drug and/or alcohol testing of the parents
  • consider all other evidence presented to the court
  • talk with the children
  • arrange for any family or psychological reports.

They do not have to act on what the children want, but must make sure that these views are heard by the court.

They must meet with the child or children they are representing unless:

  • the child is under 5 years of age,
  • the child does not want to meet with the independent children’s lawyer or express a view, or
  • there are exceptional circumstances not to meet with the child.

Anyone taking part in the proceedings can ask the court to appoint an independent children’s lawyer. The court will decide if an independent children’s lawyer will be used.

National Legal Aid's website has more information about the role of independent children's lawyersExternal Link for children and parents.

Disclaimer: The material in this print-out relates to the law as it applies in the state of Victoria. It is intended as a general guide only. Readers should not act on the basis of any material in this print-out without getting legal advice about their own particular situations. Victoria Legal Aid disclaims any liability howsoever caused to any person in respect of any action taken in reliance on the contents of the publication.

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Reviewed 06 May 2024

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